by Liesl Frank
Making the decision to get pregnant, to start a family with your beloved, can be an exciting and nerve racking time. And once you have made that decision, then you go for it gun-ho and you know what that means? Lots and lots of sex – Woo Hoo!!!!
But if after having months and months of sex (woo hoo), the pregnancy tests continue to come back negative. The stress starts to set in. You start to wonder whether either one of you might have fertility issues. So you go to a specialist and get all of the tests done. There could be:
v Ovulation problems
v Poor egg quality
v Low sperm count
v Low healthy sperm count etc.
The specialist might suggest a number of treatments, including going through an IVF cycle. What if you do everything the doctor suggests, and still no luck. This can cause a great deal of stress and pressure on your relationship as well as your finances.
What if there was an energetic reason as to why you are no getting pregnant? As I explained in my blog “Stop sabotaging your life”, sometimes our unconscious / subconscious beliefs can have a real impact on our everyday lives. I’m going to share with you some examples from three of my clients (who have all given me permission to share their stories)
Sarah* was enjoying life and nights out drinking with her partner and their friends. She then found out that she was pregnant. Around the 12 week mark, they did the usual tests and found out that the embryo had the markers for Downe Syndrome. They made the difficult decision to terminate the baby. Sarah was worried that she had poisoned her child by the nights that she went out drinking before she knew that she was pregnant
We identified that Sarah had a number of limiting beliefs in place
“I deserve to have another child” – No
“I had my chance & I blew it” – Yes
“I have put up an energetic ‘stay away’ sign to my future children” – Yes
At the end of the Kinesiology session we were able to turn these around to
“I deserve to have another child” – Yes
“I had my chance and I blew it” – No
“I haven’t blown it” – Yes
“I have put up an energetic ‘stay away’ sign to my future children” – No
“I have not put up an energetic ‘stay away’ sign to my future children” – Yes
“My future children are welcome any time” – Yes
Tania* had been feeling guilty for years about the abortion that she had had early on in her marriage to her husband. After three years of marriage, they separated and then got divorced. Ten years on, Tania is still holding onto a lot of guilt, shame and blame in regards to having the abortion. Some of the beliefs were:
“I have missed the boat of life” – Yes
“I must punish myself for my life decisions” – Yes
Tania’s Angels wanted to pass on the message to her that she had to stop beating herself up about the abortion and to forgive herself.
Through the Kinesiology sessions we were able to change these beliefs around to
“I have missed the boat of life” – No
“I have not missed the boat of life” – Yes
“I am still on the boat of life” – Yes
“I must punish myself for my life decisions” – No
Belinda* has always wanted to be a mother, ever since she was a little girl. She and her husband have been trying for a while now to start a family. It came to light that Belinda’s mother had a very difficult time falling pregnant with her. It took 14 years of trying before Belinda was conceived. It was also a very difficult pregnancy as well.
Belinda had adopted what we call a “surrogating belief”. Because her mother had had such a difficult time falling pregnant, Belinda also believed that she would have the same difficult time falling pregnant.
“I will have the same problems falling pregnant that my mother had” – Yes
“I have a fear of pregnancy” – Yes
Belinda needed to say the following statement 15 times to clear this belief. “I release the need to know that falling pregnant is difficult for my mother. And I now choose to know that falling pregnant is easy and I will have a healthy family”
“I will have the same problems falling pregnant that my mother had” – No
“I have a fear of pregnancy” – No
These three examples show you how our subconscious mind may have an impact on our attempts to fall pregnant. So in addition to the work that you are doing with your fertility specialist (and/or other complementary medicine options), it might be worthwhile to do some energetic work with Kinesiology as well.
If you would like to find out more about how Kinesiology can help you, why not give Liesl, our Kinesiologist, a call for a confidential chat.